Clearing
Emotional Baggage Using Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
By
Daniel Madden ADHP MICHP BE.
085-1318344
dmadden@experiencetheworlddifferent.com
In this article, I’ll touch on how
emotional baggage of anger, fear, hurt, sadness and guilt can affect our lives.
You’ll see, sound out and get a sense of how and whether clearing emotional
baggage from the past could assist you in creating the future you want. This
article is an overview. In the weeks
ahead, I’ll go into more detail on each negative emotion listed. In the
meantime, see the following links:
Clearing
Emotional Baggage
Clearing
Anger
Resolving
Anxiety
Clearing
Fear
Clearing
Guilt
Clearing
Hurt and Sadness
Emotional baggage. It’s a vivid image of a
person literally being weighted down with things that happened in the past. At
a subconscious level, it consists of images from the past, sounds from the
past, remembered physical sensations and storms of emotion from the past. There
is also the internal analysis or reflection of those events that happened,
thoughts and thinking that cause us to relive the stuff from the past. That
internal narrative creates a story of what happened. From those reflections, we
can develop limiting beliefs and attitudes that prevent us from having the
future we want for ourselves. The story we create is mostly fiction. It is our
representation of what happened in reality. If you don’t believe that, somehow
get hold of different witness statements of the same event, and you’ll be
astonished at what correlates, and what doesn’t. If you’ve ever entered into a
verbal contract with someone, you might have discovered that disagreements tend
to cause both parties to have completely different versions of the verbal contract
they agreed to! The negative emotions we felt in those past events can be
triggered by sights, sounds, words, voice tones, sensations and smells and
tastes. We can get a resurgence of emotion. We can have a re-experience of a
sensory experience, for example an image of the memory, a sound from the memory
or a physical re-experience. In extreme cases, we get an ab-reaction, which is a
full reliving of the negative experience.
If we keep on reliving the events from the
past, they’ll continue to affect our present, and our present has a major
impact on how our future comes about.
How does emotional baggage affect the now
and the future? Let me give an example. This is a fictitious event that I’ve
made up.
Mary, and her husband Joe live in the same
house. It’s Joe’s turn to prepare dinner. He’d been hungry after work, and had
grabbed himself a snack before going home. On arriving home, he’d got engrossed
in working on the laptop, and time slipped by. Mary has just arrived in from
work, hungry and grumpy.
None of us are at our best when we’re
hungry, and nutrition levels in the blood are low. We tend to get cranky more
easily, and anxious more easily. Small stresses become bigger ones.
Being
free of emotional baggage, the conversation would go something like this:
Mary: Joe, where’s the dinner? It’s your turn today. I’m starving.
Joe: (Sarcastically, after being
interrupted from deep thought) Oh, hi Mary, it’s lovely to see you too.
Mary: You’re always home an hour earlier than me on Tuesdays. You’ve had
plenty of time to get it ready.
Joe: Yeah OK, I was deep in thought there. Give me five minutes, I’ll
boil the kettle, give you some instant soup to keep you going. It’ll take too
long to prepare spuds, I’ll stick down some noodles, heat some frozen veg, and
there’s enough mince in the fridge from yesterday.
Mary: (Smiles) I’ll forgive
you this time.
Here’s
how the conversation could go with emotional baggage in the mix:
Mary: Joe, where’s the dinner? It’s your turn today. I’m starving.
Joe: (Sarcastically, after being
interrupted from deep thought) Oh, hi Mary, it’s lovely to see you too.
Mary: You’re always home an hour earlier than me on Tuesdays. You’ve had
plenty of time to get it ready. (Images
of a previous relationship with Mike come into her mind. Mike would promise the
earth, and rarely deliver. Broken promises used to make Mary really angry, and
all those past storms of anger with Mike flash through her mind at an
unconscious level, and she feels furious, totally inappropriately so). She says
bitterly: Why don’t you ever live up to your promises?
Joe: (Images of his Mother come
into his mind.) Joes’ mother had a terrible temper, and she’d always accuse Joe
unfairly, and criticise him. As a teenager, Joe would get into shouting fights
with his Mother, and she could press his buttons easily, and drive him into frenzies
of rage. Mary’s unfair accusation and bitter tone of voice hits’ him right in
the “anger” spot, and all that anger and hurt flare right to the surface. He
shouts: Why don’t you ever give me a break? I can’t believe I married an
angry bitch like my Mother.
Mary: (Crying with hurt and anger.)
Anger? You want to see anger? She
walks over, picks up his laptop, and smashes it to the floor.
We’ll leave this domestic scene there. The
example above demonstrated the wonderful world of the emotional baggage of
anger and hurt and sadness. What usually happens is that we swallow our
resentments, leaving stuff unsaid. By doing this, we add a little more weight
to the little black bags of emotional baggage. Then they build up, and
something triggers us, the big black bags of emotional baggage open up, out
flood the emotions, and the emotions carry us along a storm, a roller coaster
ride of uncontrolled emotions and destructive actions.
Of course stuff happens in life. Of course
it’s sometimes appropriate to get angry, and feel afraid, and feel hurt and
sadness and guilt. Negative emotions have a positive purpose. But there are
times when it’s inappropriate to feel negative emotions.
If a person gets angry too easily, they’ll
say and do destructive things. Clearing out the negative emotional baggage of
anger from the past lowers the “anger threshold”, so it takes a lot more to
make a person angry. Believe me, lowering a “hair trigger” anger threshold
dramatically improves the quality of life. If anger was the only way to get
results, it’s useful and much more pleasant for everyone else when new skills
are learnt. Of course, it’s still possible to be powerfully assertive without
being angry. Being powerfully assertive without being angry means that you’d
have the forcefulness of the incredible hulk without his reckless, destructive
and aggressive stupidity.
If a person gets hurt and sad too easily,
they’ll withdraw from situations and events to avoid getting hurt, and getting
sad and crying. Clearing out hurt and sadness from the past, means that the
person has a “tougher skin”. If people banter with you, it won’t be interpreted
in a way that hurts. You’ll be able to enjoy the cut and thrust of banter.
People won’t have to be on tip toes with what they say around you because
you’re a “tearful” person. The feeling of sadness is a depressant, so by being
free of it, you’ll have more energy.
If a person gets afraid and anxious too
easily, it really impacts on the quality of life. They won’t try to do things,
and if they never try, they’ll never succeed. If fear and anxiety are
unchecked, they can lead to phobias and other emotionally crippling disorders. It’s
good to have caution, but it’s also important to take sensible risks. It
wouldn’t be a good idea to attempt to fly a plane without learning it first.
Overconfident fearlessness can be dangerous! However, after learning to fly a
plane, and passing all the tests necessary, there would still be an element of
risk to fly it, but it would be a sensible risk. For example, there is a
certain risk involved in driving a car, but by learning to drive competently,
that risk is vastly reduced. Clearing out fear and anxiety from the past allows
much more accurate evaluation of the current situation.
Guilt can lead to all sorts of subconscious
self-punishing behaviours. It doesn’t stop us from doing things. How often did
you know you’d feel guilty about doing something, and did it anyway? The best
way to deal with guilt is to resolve conflicting values about how life should
be lived. If you don’t go against your values, you won’t feel guilt in the
future, and the secret to resolving past guilt is to preserve the positive
learnings from those past experiences. An example would be a conflict between
the values of “free time” and “generating income”. If a person isn’t making
enough money to support their family, they’ll feel guilty. If they aren’t
spending enough time with their family, they’ll feel guilty. By getting the
balance between “Spending time with family”, and “generating income to support
family”, that source of guilt is eliminated.
All that sounds wonderful, but I hope
you’re feeling skeptical. How can a lifetime of crap that happens get cleared
quickly? The answer to that is that thousands of people have cleared their
negative emotional baggage using timeline clearing techniques. Timeline
clearing uses a combination of hypnosis and NLP. It uses the power and speed of
your subconscious mind to clear years of stuff in minutes.
It’s been said that our subconscious mind
processes millions of bits of information from our nervous system every second.
That’s everything that you see directly, and everything in your peripheral
vision. Every sound in your environment. Every sensation from every part of
your body inside and out. Every sensation of smell and taste. And all the
feedback from your body in relation to all those automatic functions like blood
flow, breathing, heartbeat, nutrition, foreign body invasion, movement and
balance and so on. Your subconscious stores all your knowledge, everything that
lets you know you are you. In contrast, we can consciously handle between five
and nine units of information at a time. That’s the capability of millions of
bits of information of your subconscious, as opposed to a maximum of nine units
of information of your conscious mind. If you think about it, you have a vast
storehouse of knowledge of words in your subconscious mind. When someone says
something to you, or you read something, your subconscious sorts through the
millions of possible meanings, and instantaneously provides you with the
correct interpretation and meaning. Imagine how long it would take to
consciously sort through thousands of words, contexts, and possible meanings!
With emotional baggage clearing, we use
that same capability of your subconscious mind to clear out years of stuff in a
short period of time. Attempting to clear out that stuff consciously would take
years. Since your subconscious mind processes information millions of times
faster, divide years by millions to estimate the amount of time it takes to
clear stuff from the past. Of course, it all needs to be setup carefully to
prepare your mind for the task. Your subconscious has to be made aware of the
benefits of letting all that stuff go, and sometimes the negative consequences
of not letting it go. It’s like setting up dominoes. When you’re ready to let
it go, it’s almost as quick as a flick of the thumb and a little more
assistance. When you start laughing at the stuff that used to distress you,
it’s a good sign!
If you think emotional baggage clearing
could be useful for you, simply call me, Daniel Madden, at 085-1318344, or
email me at dmadden@experiencetheworlddifferent.com.
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