Saturday, April 16, 2016

Clearing Emotional Baggage Using Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

Clearing Emotional Baggage Using Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
By Daniel Madden ADHP MICHP BE.
085-1318344
dmadden@experiencetheworlddifferent.com

In this article, I’ll touch on how emotional baggage of anger, fear, hurt, sadness and guilt can affect our lives. You’ll see, sound out and get a sense of how and whether clearing emotional baggage from the past could assist you in creating the future you want. This article is an overview.  In the weeks ahead, I’ll go into more detail on each negative emotion listed. In the meantime, see the following links:

Clearing Emotional Baggage
Clearing Anger
Resolving Anxiety
Clearing Fear
Clearing Guilt
Clearing Hurt and Sadness

Emotional baggage. It’s a vivid image of a person literally being weighted down with things that happened in the past. At a subconscious level, it consists of images from the past, sounds from the past, remembered physical sensations and storms of emotion from the past. There is also the internal analysis or reflection of those events that happened, thoughts and thinking that cause us to relive the stuff from the past. That internal narrative creates a story of what happened. From those reflections, we can develop limiting beliefs and attitudes that prevent us from having the future we want for ourselves. The story we create is mostly fiction. It is our representation of what happened in reality. If you don’t believe that, somehow get hold of different witness statements of the same event, and you’ll be astonished at what correlates, and what doesn’t. If you’ve ever entered into a verbal contract with someone, you might have discovered that disagreements tend to cause both parties to have completely different versions of the verbal contract they agreed to! The negative emotions we felt in those past events can be triggered by sights, sounds, words, voice tones, sensations and smells and tastes. We can get a resurgence of emotion. We can have a re-experience of a sensory experience, for example an image of the memory, a sound from the memory or a physical re-experience. In extreme cases, we get an ab-reaction, which is a full reliving of the negative experience.
If we keep on reliving the events from the past, they’ll continue to affect our present, and our present has a major impact on how our future comes about.

How does emotional baggage affect the now and the future? Let me give an example. This is a fictitious event that I’ve made up.

Mary, and her husband Joe live in the same house. It’s Joe’s turn to prepare dinner. He’d been hungry after work, and had grabbed himself a snack before going home. On arriving home, he’d got engrossed in working on the laptop, and time slipped by. Mary has just arrived in from work, hungry and grumpy.
None of us are at our best when we’re hungry, and nutrition levels in the blood are low. We tend to get cranky more easily, and anxious more easily. Small stresses become bigger ones.

Being free of emotional baggage, the conversation would go something like this:

Mary: Joe, where’s the dinner? It’s your turn today. I’m starving.

Joe: (Sarcastically, after being interrupted from deep thought) Oh, hi Mary, it’s lovely to see you too.

Mary: You’re always home an hour earlier than me on Tuesdays. You’ve had plenty of time to get it ready.

Joe: Yeah OK, I was deep in thought there. Give me five minutes, I’ll boil the kettle, give you some instant soup to keep you going. It’ll take too long to prepare spuds, I’ll stick down some noodles, heat some frozen veg, and there’s enough mince in the fridge from yesterday.

Mary: (Smiles) I’ll forgive you this time.

Here’s how the conversation could go with emotional baggage in the mix:

Mary: Joe, where’s the dinner? It’s your turn today. I’m starving.

Joe: (Sarcastically, after being interrupted from deep thought) Oh, hi Mary, it’s lovely to see you too.

Mary: You’re always home an hour earlier than me on Tuesdays. You’ve had plenty of time to get it ready. (Images of a previous relationship with Mike come into her mind. Mike would promise the earth, and rarely deliver. Broken promises used to make Mary really angry, and all those past storms of anger with Mike flash through her mind at an unconscious level, and she feels furious, totally inappropriately so). She says bitterly: Why don’t you ever live up to your promises?

Joe: (Images of his Mother come into his mind.) Joes’ mother had a terrible temper, and she’d always accuse Joe unfairly, and criticise him. As a teenager, Joe would get into shouting fights with his Mother, and she could press his buttons easily, and drive him into frenzies of rage. Mary’s unfair accusation and bitter tone of voice hits’ him right in the “anger” spot, and all that anger and hurt flare right to the surface. He shouts: Why don’t you ever give me a break? I can’t believe I married an angry bitch like my Mother.

Mary: (Crying with hurt and anger.) Anger? You want to see anger? She walks over, picks up his laptop, and smashes it to the floor.

We’ll leave this domestic scene there. The example above demonstrated the wonderful world of the emotional baggage of anger and hurt and sadness. What usually happens is that we swallow our resentments, leaving stuff unsaid. By doing this, we add a little more weight to the little black bags of emotional baggage. Then they build up, and something triggers us, the big black bags of emotional baggage open up, out flood the emotions, and the emotions carry us along a storm, a roller coaster ride of uncontrolled emotions and destructive actions.

Of course stuff happens in life. Of course it’s sometimes appropriate to get angry, and feel afraid, and feel hurt and sadness and guilt. Negative emotions have a positive purpose. But there are times when it’s inappropriate to feel negative emotions.

If a person gets angry too easily, they’ll say and do destructive things. Clearing out the negative emotional baggage of anger from the past lowers the “anger threshold”, so it takes a lot more to make a person angry. Believe me, lowering a “hair trigger” anger threshold dramatically improves the quality of life. If anger was the only way to get results, it’s useful and much more pleasant for everyone else when new skills are learnt. Of course, it’s still possible to be powerfully assertive without being angry. Being powerfully assertive without being angry means that you’d have the forcefulness of the incredible hulk without his reckless, destructive and aggressive stupidity.

If a person gets hurt and sad too easily, they’ll withdraw from situations and events to avoid getting hurt, and getting sad and crying. Clearing out hurt and sadness from the past, means that the person has a “tougher skin”. If people banter with you, it won’t be interpreted in a way that hurts. You’ll be able to enjoy the cut and thrust of banter. People won’t have to be on tip toes with what they say around you because you’re a “tearful” person. The feeling of sadness is a depressant, so by being free of it, you’ll have more energy.

If a person gets afraid and anxious too easily, it really impacts on the quality of life. They won’t try to do things, and if they never try, they’ll never succeed. If fear and anxiety are unchecked, they can lead to phobias and other emotionally crippling disorders. It’s good to have caution, but it’s also important to take sensible risks. It wouldn’t be a good idea to attempt to fly a plane without learning it first. Overconfident fearlessness can be dangerous! However, after learning to fly a plane, and passing all the tests necessary, there would still be an element of risk to fly it, but it would be a sensible risk. For example, there is a certain risk involved in driving a car, but by learning to drive competently, that risk is vastly reduced. Clearing out fear and anxiety from the past allows much more accurate evaluation of the current situation.

Guilt can lead to all sorts of subconscious self-punishing behaviours. It doesn’t stop us from doing things. How often did you know you’d feel guilty about doing something, and did it anyway? The best way to deal with guilt is to resolve conflicting values about how life should be lived. If you don’t go against your values, you won’t feel guilt in the future, and the secret to resolving past guilt is to preserve the positive learnings from those past experiences. An example would be a conflict between the values of “free time” and “generating income”. If a person isn’t making enough money to support their family, they’ll feel guilty. If they aren’t spending enough time with their family, they’ll feel guilty. By getting the balance between “Spending time with family”, and “generating income to support family”, that source of guilt is eliminated.

All that sounds wonderful, but I hope you’re feeling skeptical. How can a lifetime of crap that happens get cleared quickly? The answer to that is that thousands of people have cleared their negative emotional baggage using timeline clearing techniques. Timeline clearing uses a combination of hypnosis and NLP. It uses the power and speed of your subconscious mind to clear years of stuff in minutes.

It’s been said that our subconscious mind processes millions of bits of information from our nervous system every second. That’s everything that you see directly, and everything in your peripheral vision. Every sound in your environment. Every sensation from every part of your body inside and out. Every sensation of smell and taste. And all the feedback from your body in relation to all those automatic functions like blood flow, breathing, heartbeat, nutrition, foreign body invasion, movement and balance and so on. Your subconscious stores all your knowledge, everything that lets you know you are you. In contrast, we can consciously handle between five and nine units of information at a time. That’s the capability of millions of bits of information of your subconscious, as opposed to a maximum of nine units of information of your conscious mind. If you think about it, you have a vast storehouse of knowledge of words in your subconscious mind. When someone says something to you, or you read something, your subconscious sorts through the millions of possible meanings, and instantaneously provides you with the correct interpretation and meaning. Imagine how long it would take to consciously sort through thousands of words, contexts, and possible meanings!

With emotional baggage clearing, we use that same capability of your subconscious mind to clear out years of stuff in a short period of time. Attempting to clear out that stuff consciously would take years. Since your subconscious mind processes information millions of times faster, divide years by millions to estimate the amount of time it takes to clear stuff from the past. Of course, it all needs to be setup carefully to prepare your mind for the task. Your subconscious has to be made aware of the benefits of letting all that stuff go, and sometimes the negative consequences of not letting it go. It’s like setting up dominoes. When you’re ready to let it go, it’s almost as quick as a flick of the thumb and a little more assistance. When you start laughing at the stuff that used to distress you, it’s a good sign!

If you think emotional baggage clearing could be useful for you, simply call me, Daniel Madden, at 085-1318344, or email me at dmadden@experiencetheworlddifferent.com. Perhaps you know somebody who could benefit from reacting to stressful situations with emotional balance, physical calm and mental problem solving behaviour. Share this article! If someone has shared this article with you, and that fact hurts or makes you angry, I can help with that!


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Thursday, May 22, 2014

How do we make decisions?

It's election time once again, and tomorrow we'll be going to the polls to vote. Some of the candidates will be going to Europe, and we'll also be voting for the Councillors in the local elections. How do we choose who we vote for? A lot of us will not vote, and that is also a decision that is made. How did we choose not to vote? What is happening inside our heads as we make our decisions?

If we personally know the person we are voting for, it makes it a lot easier to choose or not choose them. If we have seen them on television, or heard them on the radio, we'll know them a lot better than if we are depending on election posters and flyers that come in through the door. It's unlikely we will have met them in person, unless we meet them if they have called to our door.

Some people like the look of the candidate, and base their decision (usually unconsciously) based on their looks. Some people like the sound of the candidate, and are influenced by that. Some people get a instinctual feeling as to who they are going to vote for, and go with that body sensation intuition. Some people make a logical decision, probably based on the work the person has claimed to have done, or how realistic their promises are. Of course, we also base decisions based on what other people say and feel strongly about, and if the politician stands for something we strongly agree with, we'll vote for them. Mostly our internal mental processes will be a combination of lots of different things, and we'll also have an internal debate with ourselves, that self chatter that goes on in our heads a lot.

How we decide to vote is an example of a decision making strategy, and we have strategies for everything we do. When we are learning something, it is mostly conscious, we are aware of everything we are doing, and have to painstakingly remember what to do next. This is the physical strategy. Then we learn how to do it, and it becomes an unconscious behaviour. We now have an unconscious strategy. For example, if you think of your strategy for brushing your teeth. What do you do first? Do you find the toothbrush or the toothpaste first? What goes in what hand? How do you decide exactly when to start brushing, and how do you know when you are finished? It can be broken down into a series of a lot of steps, and that includes the thought patterns that are happening in our mind at the time.

Sometimes people can have a decision making strategy that doesn't serve them very well, and they find it excruciatingly difficult to make decisions. If the menu has beef or salmon, it's a little easier to make the decision than when there are pages and pages of choices! It is possible to analyse a decision making strategy, and help a person change it to a decision making strategy that works better.

Sometimes we can make a decision based on the amusement generated by the mischief of it. We sent Dustin the turkey to the Eurovision song contest a few years back, and it would be suspected that if he appeared on the polling card tomorrow, it's off to Europe he'd be going again!

Go to http://www.experiencetheworlddifferent.com/ for more details, or ring Daniel Madden on 085 1318344 to arrange your free consultation.
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Friday, March 16, 2012

What is anxiety?

When you think about anxious feelings for a minute, what use do you think they have? I mean, our mind-body is an incredible work of art, and every positive and negative emotion has a positive purpose. Of course, too much of anything is not necessarily good. If a person was in a constant state of bliss, it would be wonderful, but would anything be done? In a constant, steady state of bliss, would a person eat, work and play, or would motivation be gone? Is it possible to experience bliss and motivational feelings at the same time? Perhaps different types of bliss would allow this, the bliss of enjoying food and drink with all of the five senses, the bliss of doing the work you love, the bliss of constantly enjoying the presence of loved ones, and the bliss of enjoying the memory of loved ones when they are not present. Would it be then possible to experience a blissful anxiousness, or an anxious blissfulness? What use does anxiousness have? Like every other emotion, it is hardwired in. Tad James describes anxiousness as imagining a future event ending badly. Afterwards, every time a person thinks of this event, anxious feelings arise. How could that possibly be useful? People who describe functions of the mind-body, are fond of going back to prehistoric times. A hunter gatherer who has a nomadic existence, spots a lovely comfortable looking cave in the distance. It would be nice to be able to spend the night in a warm dry place, they think. However, they spot unmistakable signs of a cave lion around the cave, and the signals from the body are anxious feelings. The hunter gather imagines what happens when they meet the cave lion in the cave, and feels anxious. They decide to find a different place which is less comfortable, but safer to stay the night. This allows the anxious feelings to dissipate. However, our mind body does not differentiate between a future event that causes our death if it ends badly, or a future event that ends in embarrassment if it ends badly. The feelings associated with an imagined bad ending for a future event lead to anxious feelings. So if you feel anxious about a future event (which is not life threatening in any way!), imagine floating forward in time to fifteen minutes after the successful completion of that event, and from there looking back to now, and notice how all the events between now and then align themselves in a way that supports the successful completion of that event. The check what happened the anxious feeling. Of course, it's possible that the future event won't actually complete successfully - but that can be chalked up to experience and learning! I am just writing about standard everyday anxious feelings, and not anxious mood disorders, in which people experience truly terrible and debilitating anxiousness, which seriously detract from the quality of life, and which can require psychiatric assistance.
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Monday, September 26, 2011

Parts Integration

According to some Indian traditions, the best way to achieve bliss is to become one with the universe. Bliss is a state that does not have an opposite. For example, love has an opposite emotion - not hate, but fear. Hate can be described as a desperate cry for love, fear can lead to pushing others away, love brings others closer. As more and more things happen us during life, our psyche starts to split in different ways, not like split personalities, but rather different aspects of our psyche. For example, have you ever found yourself having an internal conversation similar to the following: "Ah, go on, have that bar of chocolate, indulge yourself". And another internal voice "No chocolate - its fattening". There may even be an internal debate, usually ending in the chocolate being eaten, and probably a mixture of satisfaction and slight guilt. When parts split from our psyche, they are usually the basis for internal conflict, which uses up energy which could be used more productively. It's like using up energy in an internal tug of war, instead of using both teams to pull the rope together and move somewhere. There are different ways of working with parts to achieve harmony. One way is to negotiate with the parts, find out their purpose, and find common ground, and then find more productive ways for the parts to achieve their positive purpose. For example, there may be a part that wants to eat food all the time, when the purpose is investigated, it might be for comfort, and then ways can be found for the part to achieve the purpose of comfort in a healthier way. Another way to work with parts is called parts integration. This assumes that when a part separated from the complete whole, it's opposite also separated. When those opposite parts realise that they actually have the same highest intention, they automatically reintegrate with the complete whole, and if those parts have been responsible for destructive behaviour for a long time, the parts integration can be very profound.

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Tuesday, May 31, 2011

How does our brain work?

It may surprise you that how the brain works won't be explained in a blog, but perhaps a couple of interesting things can be considered. We have two hemispheres to our brains, a left hemisphere and a right hemisphere. The left hemisphere largely controls the right hand side of our bodies, and roughly corresponds to our conscious mind, and controls rational thought, logic, lists, analysis, linearity, letters, numbers, seeing details. The right hemisphere largely controls the left hand side of our bodies, and roughly corresponds to our subconscious mind. It controls imagination, symbolism, dreaming, flashes of intuition, pictures, and tends to see the world as a whole without the details.

There are deeper levels of brain function, our "reptilian brain", which controls survival instincts, our "mammalian brain", which controls our emotions, and our cognitive brain which controls our thinking. Of course, we have a huge network of nerves and glands for mind body communication, and energy flow.

Our subconscious minds handle vast amounts of information every second, all the sensations, all the sights, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes, where we are in relation to everything around us. It handles all the thoughts and memories we are having also, which also fire off the sensory parts of our brain. Our subconscious minds constantly evaluate our environment, if you were to compare the volume of information bombarding us to water flow, it is like a the volume of water the Niagara falls provide every second. Our conscious minds can handle between five and nine units of information at a time, e.g how long is a phone number, and how easy is it to hold a phone number in your mind before you memorise it?

Our subconscious minds then have the job of sorting through this Niagara falls flow of information, and provide our conscious minds with a flow of information equivalent to the flow from a tap. However, it usually provides us with the most important information that is relevant at the time. For example what is the correct meaning and context of a word (whenever you become aware of a word, your subconscious has to fire off all the associations it has with that word, and provide your conscious mind with the correct meaning based on context and comparision). Even if you are deep in conversation, and ignoring everything else around you, if your subconscious was to notice a tiger, it would immediately bring it to your attention by firing off your fight/flight response.

Your fight/flight response works without emotions. Have you have ever experienced an emergency situation where you acted coolly and calmly, and after the situation had been resolved, then the emotions e.g. fear, anger kicked in? The emotions are secondary responses to the action required from flight or flight and are there for the purpose of teaching you responses to similar situations. However, what can happen is that an inappropriate emotion can get associated with an event that is actually safe, but which your subconscious has labelled as an event that is dangerous. This is an important survival mechanism for a simple world that is full of dangers, and sometimes does not serve us well in a safer but much more complex world. It is the cause of PTSD, where fear and/or anger can serve well for survival in a war situation, but are not at all useful when back in peacetime.

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Saturday, February 12, 2011

Under Your Control

What you can control is under your control, and what is not under your control cannot be helped. Imagine spending huge amounts of mental energy trying to control the weather, and then feeling great when its sunny, and blaming yourself and feeling stressed when it rains. Sometimes it can be comforting to know that stuff happens, and it happens for a reason. After the great depression, banking regulations were tightened up dramatically. The law can be an ass sometimes, but if there are no laws, there would be chaos. For example, everybody more or less follows the laws of their native language. If everybody made up their own language, our communication would not be very effective! Bank regulation laws that were enforced could have prevented or at least hugely reduced the current economic pit. The pit is a lot shallower and easier to fill in than the pit Ireland was in during the great famine, yet even that pit was filled in eventually. We have control over the things we can control, and it is important to separate them from the things out of our control. We now have the opportunity to develop and build skills that we would never have gained when the hosepipe of easily available finance was spraying us all.

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

ICHP Blog on Hypno Analytical treatment for Cancer Patients

Click the link below for the Institute of Clinical Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy (ICHP) blog on using hypno-analysis to assist in Cancer Treatment.

http://ichphypnosis.blogspot.com/2010/10/cancer-hypno-analytical-psychotherapy.html


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